Make Friends with Change.

Do you ever sit and wonder if everything happens for a reason? I have. And I think I truly believe that too. I’m 23 years old. And the first 18 years of my life weren’t a walk in the park but I believe it’s best not to dwell on the negative or the past, and simply not let it define you. So more than I ever, I believe something is put in your path for a reason – no matter how positive, negative, upsetting or overwhelming. We are all human.

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Recently, as it seems most years around this time, a bit of bad luck came our way. I knew it was coming. Well I didn’t. But for a few weeks, and if you have me on twitter you’ll have read, I just had this feeling that a black cloud was looming, ready to open and pour down on us. And it did. I’m a stay at home mum to a 22 month old, pregnant with baby #2 – and I am extremely lucky to be in this position and with my partner working to allow this. Here’s this thing, my partner ended up leaving his job. Just before Christmas, just before we were meant to purchase a family car, just after things seemed to be going dare I say it…well. It was a big, messy affair and he was glad to be out. I was happy the weight had been lifted from his shoulders, I could see on his face the relief he felt to be out of a toxic place but at the same time I was riddled with worry. What did this mean for our family? I couldn’t get a job being pregnant, childcare is expensive – no one would employ me (yes I know this isn’t allowed but come on who would?). Luckily we had enough funds to last us until January – but the time bomb was ticking away with every second.

It gave me a kick up the backside. I made a change after being in deep thought for a day or two. I enrolled on a course, distance learning, to finish my training to become a Early Years/Reception Teacher. I now do 3 mornings a week volunteering in a setting across the road from me, with the flexibility to complete the course within two years and change my days to suit around my family. And it’s all funded until I earn over a certain amount which is even better. I am carving myself a future slowly, thinking post-baby/toddlers, keeping myself busy and motivated to take the plunge and transition from SAHM to Working Mum after baby #2 is born.

Again, I believe everything happens for a reason. My partner landed another job after about 10 days of being out of his previous job. One he doesn’t dread, feels more positive about and another bonus of more hours and better pay. It also gave him a fire to get himself into a career he is passionate about and loves – something for him to work towards in the future.

So here I am. Still my brain feels like a muddled, messy baby brain and I still need to settle into the new routine until I can feel I can put my umbrella down from stormy November but it’s a start. It just once again proves, life gives you a challenges at every corner, don’t let it overcome or defeat you. Focus on moving forward and being productive – life truly is what you make of it. So my posts will only be twice a week as of now, I need to prioritise and let myself fall into a routine without adding pressure to myself – so do bear with me and thank you for your continued support. And for anyone going through a rough patch, things will get better, the fog will clear and you’ll see your rainbow soon.

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5 quotes to embrace happiness.

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Sunday is often a day we reflect, make plans for the following week and mull over the week we have just had. I’ve seen some small improvements and successes in my blog (well I like to think) and this makes me proud, positive and happy. So on that note why not keep it nice and light – rounding off the week with some quotes that make us feel all happy and mushy inside. Here’s five of my best:

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Each quote can relate and mean something different to every person, so I’m not going to say what they mean to me as this s purely a reflection post. Instead I’ll leave you with this, remember that there is only one of you in this world and you are brilliant. Learn to love yourself, overly love those important to you, remember making mistakes is human, learn from you every day. You’re your own best teacher. Embrace you. Be happy!

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What makes you happy? Do you have a favourite happiness quote? Anything this week that has lifted your spirits?

Christmas Tag! 

Since December 1st came stumbling into our organised everyday lives, Christmas has been on the brain. Especially for someone with children. As a first time mum and lover of Christmas I want to make sure this Christmas is extra special. That means watching Christmas films everyday because no one can judge you…it’s December after all, making super cute homemade decorations and making sure I blog about Christmas as much as possible because let’s face it before we know it we will be digging into Easter eggs. 

So after seeing Jodie’s blog over at Budget Beauty and Babies take part in a Christmas Tag I figured why not join in. So Christmas tree lights switched on? Check. Funky Christmas songs on in the background? Double check. Emergency glass of wine in hand? Check check. Okay, let’s do this! 

What is your favourite Christmas movie?

It’s got to The Grinch. You can’t beat it. It’s such a funny film, full of jokes and laugh out loud moments. I think Jim Carrey plays it so amazingly. I could watch that film all day, and the Grinch as a baby is just simply adorable. 

Do you open your Christmas presents in the morning or afternoon?

I always wake up early on Christmas morning. Even living alone and being an adult, knowing what your gifts are, I get that exciting feeling. There is something magical about Christmas morning, so it’s definitely present time. I don’t think I could wait until the afternoon, I’m so impatient. 

Do you have a favourite Christmas memory?

I enjoy every Christmas. Well every Christmas since being with my boyfriend (together for 7 years). I had a tough childhood so he definitely put the Christmas spirit in me. I love the build up. Going to the Christmas markets, the busy Christmas shop, wrapping presents with Michael Bublè playing. Last year I received a gorgeous Pandora princess ring that was sold out everywhere, and I was super poorly at the end of my pregnancy so Christmas was a rough day spent in bed – this  gesture of gift really made me have a happy last Christmas just the two of us and gave me such a special memory. 

What is your favourite favourite festive food?

Im a lover of cheese so I love having a cheese plate when watching films. I also get these gorgeous Belgium pancakes with chocolate sauce at the Christmas markets every year. I’m not a sweet tooth person normally but these just have Christmas written all over them for me! 

What was your favourite Christmas gift?

I couldn’t possibly choose. Everyone is always so kind and thoughtful. I do love thoughtful presents though. My boyfriend always gets me a very special, meaningful piece of jewellery that ends up becoming my favourite ‘I cannot take this off it means too much kind’ of thing. I’m excited to receive my first Christmas present from my daughter this year.  

What is your favourite Christmas scent?

I love the smell when you get the decorations out. All musty and dusty. Just makes me feel like it’s fresh start time. You can beat the smell of Christmas dinner either. Yum. 

Do you have any Christmas Eve traditions?

A few drinks with the family, then new cosy pjs on and watching the Polar Express in bed. This is a tradition I have always had with my boyfriend and this year we get to share it with our little girl. 

What tops your tree?

A homemade Angel I made with my little girl. It’s full of glitter and shiny things. 

What’s the best part of Christmas for you?

I love being with the people who mean something to you. Being sat down on the sofa, surrounded by love and laughter sipping on some nice champagne, it makes you think how lucky you are to have such a happy life. The best part of this year is definitely it being my daughters first Christmas. 

What are you looking forward to most this Christmas?

Wrapping my daughters gifts, watching her experience her first Christmas and making the best first memories for my little family I possibly can. And having Michael Bublè Christmas songs on repeat.  

Now that’s made me even more excited for Christmas. 

What are you looking forward too at Christmas time? 

   

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