Pregnancy Post:21 weeks.

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I can’t believe I am over the half way mark of baby #2 already. I haven’t done a pregnancy post since 14 weeks, which you can read here, as I didn’t want to go over the same things too often. So first thing is first, we had a private gender scan done at 16 weeks as we were even more eager to know the sex of baby #2, which is weird as we never even had the urge for a private gender scan on our first baby. As you’ve probably guessed by the image above, we are having a girl! Our 22 month old daughter B is going to have a little sister. Although we secretly wanted a boy (does that make me bad for saying that?) we weren’t disheartened or upset that we were having another girl – all we care about is making sure the baby is healthy and safe! I love the idea of my little one having a little sister too – I think she is going to bond nicely with her. Before I dive in with answering questions, I thought I’d have a little rant, would I really be pregnant if I wasn’t a bit cranky. Anyway, before we found out the sex, the thing that really annoyed me was people constantly saying ‘oh you’ll have a girl, I can’t see you with a boy, you can always try again, you’ll have all girls’ and things like that. Okay, like I said it would be nice to have one of each and hopefully be done with it, but the fact I have been blessed with another daughter is amazing! I don’t know why people feel the need to say oh you’ll have to try again, like having 2 girls is a bad thing? Boy or girl, being pregnant is a wonderful and lucky experience that not everyone gets to go through – having two children of the same sex isn’t a ‘never mind’ moment. I suppose it’s like people giving you unwanted pregnancy advice, hormones run high on all matters I think! Moving on….

How Far Gone: 21+2

Know the Gender: Another little princess!

Cravings:  Actually don’t think I have anything in particular. I just feel my appetite is better, I’m hungry more often.

How are we feeling: To be honest, I still don’t think it’s really sunk it. We still haven’t bought anything (and for an usually organised me this is out of character). I think we are just focusing on Christmas and B’s birthday before Baby Fever takes over. With having a 22 month old, we don’t have much time to sit and dwell on things. We can’t imagine life with another little one – so still very much surreal.

Have you got a Bump and Feeling anything yet? I’m naturally small, being 5ft3 and 8 stone pre-pregnancy, I have a slim figure normally. So I’ve had a bump for a while now. But this past week it seems to have just became a bit more ‘pregnant’ and rounder. I feel lots of kicks and movements at night time mostly, but will get the odd thing through the day. It’s truly amazing still!

How are you Sleeping? You know what, not too bad. I mean I’m now starting to need to put the pillow under my belly when I’m on my side, but I’m never ‘uncomfortable’. Starting to wake for a wee a little more than usual too – but since I suffered PGP in my first pregnancy, this is a breeze.

Names you like:  Not the foggiest. It took us weeks to give our first daughter a name. For some reason we struggle finding girls names we like. Boys are a doddle, but I bet that’s always the way. We like very normal, traditional names that are just normal. Nothing like Ocean-Breeze or Rain-Cloud-Mae. Suggestions are welcome!

Birth Worries/Plan:  My first labour was an amazing experience. I was in the hospital for a total of 6 hours, had B after 4 hours of being in. I didn’t have stitches or pain relief. I’m hoping for the second labour to be like this – but my worry is they are going to be polar opposites. My plan really is to just stay calm, focus and let what is going to happen happen. It hurts either way so may as well try to embrace it. Eeek.

How did you find your second pregnancy in comparison to your first? Was labour what you expected/remembered the second time around?

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Make Friends with Change.

Do you ever sit and wonder if everything happens for a reason? I have. And I think I truly believe that too. I’m 23 years old. And the first 18 years of my life weren’t a walk in the park but I believe it’s best not to dwell on the negative or the past, and simply not let it define you. So more than I ever, I believe something is put in your path for a reason – no matter how positive, negative, upsetting or overwhelming. We are all human.

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Recently, as it seems most years around this time, a bit of bad luck came our way. I knew it was coming. Well I didn’t. But for a few weeks, and if you have me on twitter you’ll have read, I just had this feeling that a black cloud was looming, ready to open and pour down on us. And it did. I’m a stay at home mum to a 22 month old, pregnant with baby #2 – and I am extremely lucky to be in this position and with my partner working to allow this. Here’s this thing, my partner ended up leaving his job. Just before Christmas, just before we were meant to purchase a family car, just after things seemed to be going dare I say it…well. It was a big, messy affair and he was glad to be out. I was happy the weight had been lifted from his shoulders, I could see on his face the relief he felt to be out of a toxic place but at the same time I was riddled with worry. What did this mean for our family? I couldn’t get a job being pregnant, childcare is expensive – no one would employ me (yes I know this isn’t allowed but come on who would?). Luckily we had enough funds to last us until January – but the time bomb was ticking away with every second.

It gave me a kick up the backside. I made a change after being in deep thought for a day or two. I enrolled on a course, distance learning, to finish my training to become a Early Years/Reception Teacher. I now do 3 mornings a week volunteering in a setting across the road from me, with the flexibility to complete the course within two years and change my days to suit around my family. And it’s all funded until I earn over a certain amount which is even better. I am carving myself a future slowly, thinking post-baby/toddlers, keeping myself busy and motivated to take the plunge and transition from SAHM to Working Mum after baby #2 is born.

Again, I believe everything happens for a reason. My partner landed another job after about 10 days of being out of his previous job. One he doesn’t dread, feels more positive about and another bonus of more hours and better pay. It also gave him a fire to get himself into a career he is passionate about and loves – something for him to work towards in the future.

So here I am. Still my brain feels like a muddled, messy baby brain and I still need to settle into the new routine until I can feel I can put my umbrella down from stormy November but it’s a start. It just once again proves, life gives you a challenges at every corner, don’t let it overcome or defeat you. Focus on moving forward and being productive – life truly is what you make of it. So my posts will only be twice a week as of now, I need to prioritise and let myself fall into a routine without adding pressure to myself – so do bear with me and thank you for your continued support. And for anyone going through a rough patch, things will get better, the fog will clear and you’ll see your rainbow soon.

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5 quotes to embrace happiness.

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Sunday is often a day we reflect, make plans for the following week and mull over the week we have just had. I’ve seen some small improvements and successes in my blog (well I like to think) and this makes me proud, positive and happy. So on that note why not keep it nice and light – rounding off the week with some quotes that make us feel all happy and mushy inside. Here’s five of my best:

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Each quote can relate and mean something different to every person, so I’m not going to say what they mean to me as this s purely a reflection post. Instead I’ll leave you with this, remember that there is only one of you in this world and you are brilliant. Learn to love yourself, overly love those important to you, remember making mistakes is human, learn from you every day. You’re your own best teacher. Embrace you. Be happy!

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What makes you happy? Do you have a favourite happiness quote? Anything this week that has lifted your spirits?

My Thankful List.

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Sitting back and actually pondering over life, it’s easy to see that I have a lot to be thankful for. Since it is Sunday, what better way to round off the week than to put these marvellously positive reasons out into my own personal corner of the internet. I have many reasons to be thankful in life but for the sake of the blog, lets round it to five. So here we go, lets count these blessings:

  1. I have a very resourceful, beautiful, kind and most importantly healthy 19 month old daughter. This is easily the thing I am most thankful for in life by far. Many people go through life longing for a child or having some many obstacles in their way whilst trying to achieve this and the fact I was able to bring my daughter into this world comfortably and stress free was/is amazing. I know as a parent, we all have those moments where our child tests our patience, but deep down I wouldn’t have it any other way. It is an exceptional, incredible journey and every part of it makes up parenthood (especially the bad and the ugly moments). She is here and with me, and loves me unconditionally. How can I not be thankful?
  2. Love is also something not everyone gets to experience, or they find love and unfortunately it gets away. For whatever reason. Love is something I am massively thankful for. And by love, I mean the relationship I have with my fiance. Eight years we have been together now. Eight years has brought many high and low moments, but now our relationship is strong, sturdy and (I feel) shatterproof. It’s so cliche to say but he is my best friend, rock and soulmate. The support I receive from him is something I will forever be thankful for.
  3. My health is something I am very thankful for. Losing my mother as a small child and then my Nanna as a teen (who was my guardian) means that I understand the true value of how important your health is and how quickly it can take a turn for the worse. We are all so quick to grumble about a cough or a cold we have, but we forget that there are many people in this world battling to stay another day. I thank heavens every morning that I am healthy and here to experience my daughters life.
  4. My education. Living in the UK means I have always had the access to education from being a young child. At the age of 3/4 years old, I was in pre-school, then primary school, then secondary school, then college and then university. Okay university might not have been the route for me, but the fact I had the opportunity to even apply to go there is an incredible thing. Many people in this world do not even have access to a proper childhood education, don’t know how to read or write or even count. It’s something you take massively for granted, especially living in the UK. I am extremely thankful that my education served me well and is the basis for many opportunities I receive in life.
  5. Since this blog has turned into a deep post, I will finish it on a lighter thankful note. I am thankful for my cat. He was abandoned as a kitten and took to a cat shelter. Luck would have it, two weeks later, we fell in love with him and he became a part of our family. He is a cat you wouldn’t ever think had such a rough start to life. He is a gentle soul, playful (but doesn’t hurt) and is my daughters best friend. I am thankful for the smiles he brings to her face on a daily basis.

So there we have it. My week rounded off and brought to an end with a smile on for face for all these precious, lovely things I have to be thankful of. In this fast paced, quick moving world, we don’t reflect on life enough.

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What are you thankful for in life? 

Why blogging has taken a back seat.

Quick update to let you all know I am still here, to apologise for the lack of interaction and hopefully I posting regularly again in the near future. With Christmas happening I’ve been so busy (as everyone is at this time of year), on top of that I have moved into a new house…literally days after Christmas, I know crazy – so I don’t have a spare five minutes to sit and blog.

My little girl B has her first birthday this weekend so I will be blogging next week letting you all know about her progress and her day. But as a sneak preview, she’s walking now, quite confidently too, and touch wood we have cracked self soothing and full nights, but I know babies like to trick us so fingers crossed. It’s also my fiances birthday the week after so as you can imagine, I have my hands well and truly tied at the moment.

I miss reading lots of lovely blogs and visiting my favourite links but with a bit of luck I will be back into the swing of things soon! Oh and thanks for still visiting my blog, even though I haven’t posted, it really has lifted my spirits in these tricky, stressful weeks.

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The Ugly Jumper Season 

It’s December, and Christmas is slowly making its way into our homes. I do love a good Christmas film snuggled up on a dull day. 
I am also a sucker for a good Christmas jumper. So far I have a collection of three. All purchased online at Boohoo (who are probably my favourite online shopping sites ever, I wish they would open up a store). 

  

Our family’s christmas jumpers for 2016

  

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1. I bought this one last year and it was £20. I love this one so much because I love Elf the film. It’s probably my favourite line out of the film. The jumper itself is a really nice fit. It’s nice and thick and fits nicely around the arms and neck so it’s not too loose or tight. It’s super comfy. I really want a Grinch jumper because that’s my most favourite film so if you know of any being sold – do comment!

2. This is a new purchase. Obviously by the quote on the jumper I am blonde so this appealed to me. They also do brunette too. I am a big fan of quote jumpers but I still wanted it to be Christmas related. I wanted a black one as I’ve already got a red Christmas jumper. Again it’s a lovely fit. I have this in a small and it’s a little shorter than the small size of jumper number 1 but still such a good fit and look! It’s nice and casual. This was £15. 

3. Again, from boohoo. I wanted a jumper I could wear on Christmas Day. Something casual, light in colour but still Christmassy. I saw this and loved it. I love the detailing if the reindeer and how they stand out against the blue. My little girl and boyfriend have piercing blue eyes (I have green) so I wanted soothing that would make there eyes pop when having pictures together. This is such a simple yet elegant jumper I Luke really reccommend. They do this in two other colours too. Again this was £15. 

Dad’s jumpers 

4. Dad is a mega Christmas fan. He knows every word to Home Alone 1&2, along with every single fact. So I would expect nothing less but for him to have a Home Alone quote jumper. We bought our film quote jumpers together last Christmas time. This was £20, but because of how popular this is now you will most probably be able to find this much cheaper now. The jumper itself is a good lovely thick material, but he doesn’t overheat and can wear this comfortably all day. My partner is 6ft3 so this was a worry when ordering from an online site, but it fits lovely! 

Little B’s jumpers

With it being B’s first Christmas I just had to get her a few Christmas jumpers to celebrate the season. I wanted to get her a casual, winter style one that wasn’t too in your face and another that had Christmas written all over it. These are the two (no doubt I will impulse buy more) that I have purchased.

5. This is a lovely, thick and pretty jumper bought from the F&F range at Tesco. Her Dad bought it her but I think it was around the £10 mark. I really love the detailing in this. It has lovely 3D pom pom’s to add to the snowy theme and a lovely polar bear with some glittery detail. I always get asked where I bought this, it’s such a lovely purchase. It’s not that itchy material either so I know B will be comfortable playing and exploring wearing this. 

6. I bought this as her proper Christmassy, in your face its Christmas jumper. It was from Primark and at a cheap and cheerful price. Apparently £1.50 of this jumper will go to the  Text Santa Charity. I love the little reindeer, and I think the beige colour keeps it that little bit casual too. It’s not too thick so it’s really comfortable and good fitting for B. 
I couldn’t write this post without sharing with you my favourite baby buy of the month. Back in October I preordered a Christmas dress for my little darling to wear on Christmas Day. You can buy matching dresses too, so you and your little one match but I really wanted all the attention to be on my Little B alone…and I think it’s a little out there or my own style. But it’s so adorable and cute. Here it is…. My Little B’s Christmas outfit for Christmas Day. 
Do you go all out at Christmas time and buy Christmas jumpers? Do you plan an outfit for your little ones Christmas Day? Leave a comment and let me know or tweet me @mumisthewordblg 

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It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas!

The holidays are coming! Usually, I’m a bit of a Grinch and haven’t really got involved in the festive seasons. But this year it’s different….I have my gorgeous 10.5 month old Little B in my life and she is experiencing her first Christmas this year. 

The past few days we are spent our free time decorating the house and making some lovely little decorations. Little B is in awe of the Christmas tree, she especially likes the flashing lights. Mum and Dad however are not a fan of having to tell her not to pull the decorations off every two minutes. 

  

Our lovely festive tree

  
I’m really sentimental and wanted to make some homemade decorations for us to celebrate B’s first festive season, so I set about making a few with her a couple days before we were due to put our decorations up. First we made our saltdough Santa, which is made out of the imprint of Little B’s hand, it went a little burnt but it still looks lovely and does the job just fine. I painted Santa on the handprint though as I think my little girl is a touch too young to at the moment. Then we decorated our own bauble, well my little one did. I just let her get her hands messy in edible finger paints and then handle the bauble. She left some cute, fun marks on it. Daddy thinks it looks like a planet. We then make our own mistletoes canvas picture. I just painted B’s feet and pressed them onto the canvas. It’s such a cute little picture and it’s now proudly hung above my fireplace! My favourite Christmas tree ornament is a little felt ‘I saw Mummy kissing Santa Claus’ sign! It was only £1.50 (I think) and looks lovely!

Some of my favourite home made decorations


So that’s my Christmas preparations and decorations complete for now. I’m hoping to get into the Christmas spirit and spend most of December with my family, making precious memories. Before we know it it will be 2016! 

What do you have planned for Christmas? Have you made any decorations?   

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