Why I’ve fell out with media, celebrities and pop culture.

After stumbling over a couple of fantastic posts such as Smash It Like A Girl by Mad House Mum, do read, my mind has been awash with thought. There was another incredible post on the pressures boys face but unfortunately, for the life of me can’t find it in my bookmarks or history to reference. She did a previous post in the past on the pressures teenage girls face too. If you do know who I’m referring to please comment so I can edit it in. With these posts ringing fresh in my mind (and clearly a theme forming across the internet), they prompted me into thinking about this area in more depth. Just a word of warning, this is a little bit of a rant post.

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We are all well aware we live in an age of technology, smartphones, celebrity trends and media. Easily we can read the latest celebrity news by opening up an app or with a simple search – even Snapchat has introduced magazine/celebrity content to their story feature. Pop culture is ruling. Celebrities bring trends, which go hand in hand with pressures to stay on top of trends in order to stay ‘current’ and ‘cool’. Sometimes this can be an extremely positive thing, raising awareness regarding certain issues and taboo. On the other hand, we can be left questioning certain statements…much like I was.

A few nights ago scrolling through Snapchat stories – whilst deep in battle of re-sleep training which you can read about here (plug plug plug) –  I came across an article about a Kardashian/Jenner. Now this high profile, celebrity family is plastered everywhere and frequently feature in tabloids, so this wasn’t at all a surprise to me. The article in particular was discussing an interview with the youngest member, Kylie Jenner, for Complex Magazine. Now before I go on Kylie Jenner has achieved many great things which I deeply applaud and commend, even establishing and smashing her own business empire at the age of 19. Being voted Most Influential Teen by TIME (which I was unaware of until researching, proving my point further down) will hopefully allow her success to positively encourage and motivate teenagers of today – to strive and work hard for their own goals. I truly hope she becomes a role model to our future adults for those positive, incredible reasons as oppose to only appearance based, shallow trends.

I completely recognise that being branded a celebrity does not take away your human right, they are underneath it all still people like you and me; in the full interview Kylie shows this humane side and a little bit of who she is behind headlines by discussing troubles she has faced as a teen. These include anxiety, bullying and pressures she too has felt, hopefully this resonates to teens feeling similar pressures that she is in fact only human, she does and can feel the same as many of us because of similar issues.  But back to my point, when browsing through Snapchat I came across a little breakdown of the article. Keep in mind many teens use Snapchat as a platform to socialise, having access to this article just as easily as I did – and being Kylie Jenner, they are most probably going to open it and have a look at what she has been up too. Now, from the get go, this story headline was purely focused on Kylie’s infamous lip fillers which instantly annoyed me as many headlines do and then very quickly, almost instantly included these quotes from Kylie:

‘This guy I kissed was like, “Your lips are really small but you’re a really good kisser”‘

‘From then on, I just felt like I saw guys staring at my lips. I felt like no one wanted to kiss me.’

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Taken from Kylie Jenner Complex Cover. 

Reading this, I had to take a moment. Kylie was 17 when she first got lip fillers. Celebrity or not, she was still a teenage girl who felt the pressures of society,  the influence to look a certain way and the need to appeal to others. Having read the full article, and can I just say it is definitely an eye opener in understanding her achievements but still the images included focus on the need to look a particular way,  Kylie went on to say:

‘Oh, yeah, I got my lips done’? What are all those moms going to think about me? These kids, my fans, they’re going to think I’m crazy. I didn’t want to be a bad influence. I didn’t want people to think you had to get your lips done to feel good about yourself.’

What really irritates me, is why the media grabs your attention by zoning straight in on her lips, relating it to how it can influence the level of attraction and feeling someone has for you. As a teenage girl reading that, I would want to make sure I had full, ample lips (enter the craze of the Kylie Jenner Challenge which she in no way promoted or encouraged by the way – seeing teens attempting to plump lips by sucking glasses, yeah it wasn’t pretty see picture below for proof). Like teens don’t have enough awkward moments in life and mini hormonal break downs about their first puppy love – materialist fads like this don’t need to be added.

I did some light research and discovered that Their Girls’ Attitudes Survey, which 1288 women aged 7 to 21 took part in, discovered that 87% of girls between the ages 11 and 21 thought women were judged more on their appearance than their ability which is only proven when comparing the full article to the snippet I stumbled upon via Snapchat – and one in five girls between 7 and 11 years said they had been on a diet – which is saddening and worrying. You can find the full article on this here.

Why must it always come down to appearance? In this day and age, why is someone who is so current within teens  and media, and young herself, being focused prominently on appearance when she clearly she has achieved great success at the age of 19. Surely it’s healthier to have her business and achievements focused on much deeper. How is any young girl meant to feel that their ability is being recognised more than their appearance when headlines like this are everywhere? If you went to any teenager or anyone for that matter, and asked them to tell you one thing about Kylie Jenner, you will probably more than likely get a response relating to appearance. It’s the sad truth. And Jenner isn’t the only celebrity happens with. Appearance, unfortunately seems to be the ‘it’ thing at the moment.

The age we knew when we were younger is very much fading into the distance. Technology is very much a prominent means, I mean I’m typing this on a laptop connected to wifi providing me a wonderful connection to the internet – which as you will agree, a clear lifetime away from our childhoods. With this, social media sees celebrities available to their fans easier than ever and in that more articles reviewing them as products not people are frequently our social media feeds – I’m sure it will only keep developing and ‘evolving’. Sure the world will always have fashion icons and different trends will come and go – but what will our children and teens take from all this information available, especially when it’s a world so focused on keeping up with trends and how we should be looking a certain way.  As a mother of a 21 month old girl, it makes me question the kind of pressures, that will be unnecessarily added to her life. Pressures felt more due to media and how celebrities are portrayed. What and how will she feel in 15 years time? Will she be one of those 87% feeling women are judged more on appearance than ability? I hope not. Will she be made to feel her lips have to look a certain way and try silly methods to try and achieve them? Will she still be reading gossip columns focusing on assets and how they can determine whether someone finds her attractive?  This applies to both genders too, it’s present and clear across  both genders. You don’t even have to look or long to see it.

I hope times will have shifted, movements evolved and that we will see a happier, healthier and safer age of teenagers. Who knows? I guess for now all we can do is support and uplift our dear ones, helping them to understand that beauty isn’t defined by a look or by our appearance – to help open their eyes to learn how to appreciate their own beauty inside and out whilst they mature and develop.

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What annoys you most about the world we live in today in regards to media? Will pressures on our teens and selves ever ease?

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41 thoughts on “Why I’ve fell out with media, celebrities and pop culture.

  1. It is ridiculous how obsessed we are with celebrity. It makes me so sad that these girls getting surgery so young. And don’t even get me started on the men vs women sexism that goes on in the workplace. The fact that it still legal for an employer to insist his female staff wear heels is an outrage. #weekendblogshare

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  2. Raising girls is an absolute minefield. I have a 13 year old who thankfully is very studious and focused on her education, but I do see the occasional concern about how she looks, generally just teenage spots. I hope that’s all we’ll have to worry about, but who knows? Great post 🙂 #WeekendBlogShare

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  3. I think sadly social media feeds obssessions. I worry our children will lose sight of what a real woman looks like. Air brushing, cropping, filtering distorts our view. I’ve actually wrote a post on the pressure of weight fuelled by social media. We just have to teach our children to be happy & healthy. Lip fillers at 17 is just awful why didn’t someone stop her. #kcacols lifeinthemumslane

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  4. The looks obsession of pop culture is something I struggled with as a teenager and sadly it hasn’t gone away yet. However, it’s great that people are speaking up against it, and your post makes a great contribution to this discussion. #kcacols

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  5. Unfortunately these days with so many things to read / see / do young people can access everything in the world within a few clicks. It’s generally a quick few seconds looking at photos and headlines and then on to the next thing! So headlines get more shocking in an attempt to get people to actually read them. Vicious circle really! #KCACOLS

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  6. It’s really difficult but I find the best way forward is to explain its not the real world Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

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  7. unfortunately I just think things will get worse, especially given the way we use social media and online platforms. it seems people want this info too – and as the saying goes, if it bleeds, it leads. #KCACOLS

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  8. I hate how nowadays it’s all about appearance but more recently I really hate the pressure media has put on new mums to lose their baby weight. Even Blake Lively (who I hated in Gossip girl – loved Blair) has spoken against it and said the weight she lost so suddenly was not normal and shouldn’t be aspired to.
    Right now I’m thankful for having a Boy as there is less pressure but he is ginger and I don’t want him to feel he needs to dye his hair when he is older to fit the conventions. Eurgh wow you’re getting me on a rant now hahah!
    #kcakols

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    • It’s something that we can so easily get caught up in isn’t it? Whether that’s ranting about it or relating to it. It’s ridiculous. It’s definitely increasing over the years, just hoping that something will change and our children can have more important things to worry about. Hey, Ed Sheeran, Prince Harry and Eddie Redmayne (?) are doing the reds proud – I’m sure he will be fine. Oh and thanks for reading and taking the time to comment x

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  9. You discuss some really interesting and important points here. Social media has heaped the pressure on young girls and as parents our hands are a little tied. We can’t protect them from it, so we have to be the best role models we can be. We have to show them with our actions that we are confident with our bodies, not constantly dieting and we need to keep open lines of communication with them. Young girls are literally obsessed with their appearance and stress about whether a photo is worthy enough to be put on social media. The stress and humiliation of not getting ‘enough’ likes is huge. It is really difficult to watch. A thought provoking post and thank you so much for the mention. Alison x

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  10. I completely agree with you on all of this, as much as I don’t want to read it, I do love the daily mail celebrity gossip app and am riveted by all of the drama! It scares me the pressures on these young celebrities, particularly now I’m a mum. My eldest is twelve and I see him being influenced by the media and it terrifies me. I hope that things have changed by the time my girls are that age. #kcacols

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    • Oh I definitely am not immune from being hooked on reading gossip articles. I mean I have a subscription to Cosmo, but I do think it’s wrong the pressure they can add to a small mind when growing. Thanks for coming to read and comment x

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  11. I don’t have daughters but I have sons and I worry just as much about them and hope that they don’t think celebrity/magazines is the way women should be. It’s awful that these things are shoved in their faces from such a young age and it’s on us now as parents to teach them otherwise. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

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  12. Who knew that she had some depth. Well done her for doing more but the problem is that being a model and bringing out makeup kits etc, although building a business, she herself is promoting the same thought process – that it’s about the way you look. She profits from young teenagers buying her wares so that they can try and look like her.
    The fact that the article exists about her business accomplishments shows that some media outlets are interested however Snapchat is supposed to be simple and frivolous is it not so I don’t suppose it’s the best platform.

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  13. Some of the stuff out there is just plain scary. I am trying my best to arm my daughter with self worth and intellect so that she may see from a mile away how ridiculous this ‘celebrity culture’ is but we just have to live in hope. As long as it sells, they will sell it. #KCACOLS

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    • Definitely agree, they do provide huge pressures. Especially with certain things they do etc. But didn’t want to come across bashing the youngest member at the same time, purely coincidental it was a kardashian haha! They are everywhere. Thanks for reading x

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  14. I hate the celebrity culture of the Kardashian’s etc nowadays, they’re poor role models and I just hope that in the future things will change, but I doubt it will, if it makes them buckets of money they will keep doing it! #KCACOLS

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